Relationships matter deeply to us. And when they’re not going well, it can be all-consuming. You may be eager to change something (anything) but unsure what will actually work. And then you wonder, “Is it really bad enough to go to therapy?”

You and your partner may be stuck in the same arguments, misunderstandings, or patterns that seem to repeat. Sometimes about the laundry, sometimes about who initiates intimacy.

Perhaps you notice yourself parenting the same way you swore you wouldn’t. Your daughter becomes distant, and you wonder if you’re repeating the same generational cycle of stuffing down emotions.

Often, what’s happening on the surface (yelling, withdrawal, passive-aggression) is connected to deeper emotions and needs that haven’t been fully understood or expressed. When those things stay unspoken, it’s easy for us to fall into cycles of reacting rather than hearing the deeper cry for connection.

Themes that show up in my partner and family work:

• Repeating fights that never seem to resolve

• Feeling alone even in the presence of your partner

• Navigating life transitions like pregnancy or religious deconstruction

• Breaking generational family patterns

I encourage partners to access the feelings driving their behavior, and I will ask a family to look at how their current structure of power and influence might be impacting the whole. My approach draws from theories like Psychodynamic, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Attachment, and Structural Family Therapy.

• I work with entire families as well as smaller relational units (for example, a parent and child).

• I welcome couples of diverse orientations and relationship structures, including LGBTQ+ and ethically non-monogamous (ENM) partners.

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